Tom Daley - Something I Want to Say
So many people will be saying 'Finally !' - or 'I told you so !' or something similar.
But Tom's little video bombshell is not really all it seems to be.
It gives the impression, with its 'wobbly' framing - and impromptu, of the cuff style, that it's Tom just having a personal chat with you.
In reality, of course it could be seen as a carefully crafted piece of publicity utilising an autocue.
Perhaps - realising that Tom might be soon to be 'outed' the video can be seen as a pre-emptive strike aimed at damage limitation.
Some have commented on the fact that Tom does not use the words 'gay' or 'coming out'.
He simply states that he has a relationship with a 'guy' - and he adds that he still 'fancies' girls.
Now it was obvious to some, from when Tom was a boy, that he could be described (maybe unfairly) as 'fay' and effeminate - and the bullying at school was quite probably from other boys who perceived Tom as 'gay'.
In addition, as far as has been generally reported, Tom never had a 'real' girlfriend - just girls who were friends.
Yet Tom (wisely) refuses to allow himself to be given a 'gay' label.
Career-wise, (in terms of advertising) of course, the 'gay' label could be financial suicide.
Only a small percentage of the population would describe themselves as 'gay', and so, for the advertiser, a 'gay' media/sports star might not have sufficient general appeal for them to be a profitable proposition.
However, an even smaller percentage of the population would label themselves 'bi-sexual' (although, in fact, bi-sexuality - to some degree is the normative sexual position), and so Tom was probably carefully advised to avoid that term as well.
With great skill, he has obviously beensuggested to him that he should present his sexuality in terms of a positive 'relationship' - which just happens to be with a 'guy'.
In addition, the 'form' of the relationship is not specified.
Comment in the media indicates that most people have taken the relationship to be a sexual one - a 'gay relationship', but Daley doesn't use the word 'gay' or sexual in the video.
The way is, therefore, open for him to 'flip-flop', and if things become problematic, to indicate that the relationship in question was a 'platonic' (non-sexual or non-physical) relationship.
Daley admits in the first part of the video that he has been 'vague' when talking about some 'intimate' matters.
Probably some would consider the the words 'devious' or 'misleading' more suitable.
In this video, however, which purportedly clears everything up, he could equally be seen to be vague.
All he reveals is that he is having a 'relationship' with a 'guy', and that he feels happy and 'safe'.
The true nature of the relationship is not made clear, the identity of the 'guy' is not given (although his identity is obviously known), and the actual nature of Daley's sexuality is not indicated.
So everything still seems to be very 'vague', and the video may be seen to be a 'red herring' - a false trail, possibly intended to put to right the so called 'misquote'.
Some would suggest that it would have been refreshing if Tom had simply said 'I'm gay (or bisexual), and having a gay relationship with .........' (and we all know who), rather than this carefully scripted ramble intended, apparently to make the event as anodyne as possible.
This post has now been superseded, as Daley appears to have taken the plunge (no pun intended) and has decided to 'marry' his 'guy'.........
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